TJ_Fitz
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I've heard for years about the "fight or flight" response as a reference to sympathetic nervous system (SNS) activation, and as the counterpart for the "rest and digest" response as a reference to parasympathetic nervous system (PNS) activation. But I recently heard of a third piece of the SNS response, "freeze". So it's now being called "fight, flight, or freeze". Maybe this isn't news to many of you, but it was news to me, so I thought I'd share.
Here are a couple of interesting articles that I thought were informative:
‘Why Do I Do That?’ The Silent Sway of the Threat Response
Trauma and the Freeze Response: Good, Bad, or Both?
In essence, whenever we encounter a threat, we make a snap decision about the best way to deal with it. Do we fight and try to overpower it; do we run away from it; or, do we decide that it's not possible to successfully overcome the threat or to run away and thus freeze up, hoping that the threat will lose interest in us? The emotions that go with these responses are, respectively, anger, fear/anxiety, and helpless/overwhelmed.
I know that childhood trauma has been mostly debunked as a cause for CFS/ME, but I still wonder if it is indeed a contributing factor for some of us. Here's my train of thought:
As I read through the articles, I found the description of the freeze response to be painfully close to home. This is how I often respond to stress and life's demands, and much of my negative self-talk is about this or that challenge or expectation being "too much" for me to handle, and when I start going to that place mentally, I start to shut down and detach from what's going on around me.
Having CFS as I do, that is a correct assessment in some cases. But if I realize that something is too much for me to handle, I just need to calmly speak up for what I need or take appropriate action to care for myself, instead of freezing up and shutting down as my first response. I wonder how often I jump to that reaction because it's my "default setting", rather than because the challenge at hand is actually too much for me to realistically handle.
This certainly isn't the whole explanation of why I have CFS, but I still have to wonder how much of my energy is being siphoned off by my imbalanced response to stress.
What have you found to be helpful in retraining or rebalancing unhealthy tendencies in your responses to stress?
Here are a couple of interesting articles that I thought were informative:
‘Why Do I Do That?’ The Silent Sway of the Threat Response
Trauma and the Freeze Response: Good, Bad, or Both?
In essence, whenever we encounter a threat, we make a snap decision about the best way to deal with it. Do we fight and try to overpower it; do we run away from it; or, do we decide that it's not possible to successfully overcome the threat or to run away and thus freeze up, hoping that the threat will lose interest in us? The emotions that go with these responses are, respectively, anger, fear/anxiety, and helpless/overwhelmed.
I know that childhood trauma has been mostly debunked as a cause for CFS/ME, but I still wonder if it is indeed a contributing factor for some of us. Here's my train of thought:
- People can become predisposed to jump most easily into any of the three responses based on past experiences of which response was most effective
- Childhood experiences make the deepest subconscious impressions
- Children are most prone to freeze in the face of stress from a parent or other adult, because they aren't physically or emotionally capable of fighting off or running away from such threats
- "People in freeze response look like they’re in a low-energy state, but it’s really a well-camouflaged high-energy state. It’s very costly to the body, especially when it sticks around longer than it needs to. And the nervous system can be slow to come out of this state." In other words, if you were traumatized as a child in such a way as to predispose you to freeze up, you may be using up huge amounts of energy without even realizing it.
As I read through the articles, I found the description of the freeze response to be painfully close to home. This is how I often respond to stress and life's demands, and much of my negative self-talk is about this or that challenge or expectation being "too much" for me to handle, and when I start going to that place mentally, I start to shut down and detach from what's going on around me.
Having CFS as I do, that is a correct assessment in some cases. But if I realize that something is too much for me to handle, I just need to calmly speak up for what I need or take appropriate action to care for myself, instead of freezing up and shutting down as my first response. I wonder how often I jump to that reaction because it's my "default setting", rather than because the challenge at hand is actually too much for me to realistically handle.
This certainly isn't the whole explanation of why I have CFS, but I still have to wonder how much of my energy is being siphoned off by my imbalanced response to stress.
What have you found to be helpful in retraining or rebalancing unhealthy tendencies in your responses to stress?