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In Spite of all the Pain etc., don't lose sight

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by jaminhealth, Dec 30, 2017.

  1. jaminhealth

    jaminhealth Well-Known Member

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  2. Abrin

    Abrin Well-Known Member

    Good wishes in 2018 to you as well!

    Even though I agree with a lot of the article that you posted, one critique I have is actually about the the very 'first lesson' it talks about. The article says:

    "Ignoring to make a choice that transforms your life is a choice to remain the way you are. There is no way you are not making a choice. Not moving when you should move is a choice."

    Ah, if only the concept of how our mind makes choice was so easy. But, you see science tells us that a lot of the symptoms of ME/CFS takes our ability to make good choices away from us.
    • Sleep deprivation makes the ability to make good choices really hard because of the affect it has on your willpower.
    • Post Exertional Malaise removes your ability to make the choice to physically move.
    • All these things can cause stress which has also been shown to affect your decision-making skills
    So am I saying that people should just up and give up on trying to control their own choices? Oh my goodness no! Instead, I think a much more effective way to handle self-improvement is to focus on your habits instead with judging them.

    I highly recommend the book: 'The Power of Habit' by Charles Duhigg

    Although my critique might seem like splitting hairs there is actually a huge difference between focusing on your 'choices' compared to focusing on your 'habits'. Focusing on habits allows you to make S.M.A.R.T goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) while focusing on every single choice you make in a day is both frustrating and mentally exhausting. :)