Living on Empty: Newspaper Story Highlights Whitney Dafoe's Severe ME/CFS

Cort

Founder of Health Rising and Phoenix Rising
Staff member
Living on Empty

The recent stunning newspaper article "Living on Empty: Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Saps its Victims But New Research But New Research May Find the Cause" covers patient stories, ME/CFS's history, funding, research, Ron's Davis's work and more.

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[/fright]It comes from a neighborhood newspaper whose neighborhood just happens to be Palo Alto with its rich, highly educated and powerful audience. It focuses on Whitney Dafoe - Janet Dafoe's and Ron Davis's son and his severe, severe case of ME/CFS. The opening visual of family and friends helping to move Whitney is startling, and the before and after pictures of Whitney are just heartbreaking. (This blog takes from that piece and from Whitney's evocative writings on his website.)

Prior to his illness Whitney, a photojournalist, lived an extremely active life. He was curious and creative and committed to making a difference. He'd been to every state in the Union. He'd done volunteer work in Jamaica and India and in President Obama's campaign. He'd lived with a shaman in the Ecuador rain forest. He had won several awards and exhibited his work in numerous exhibitions. He had won a scholarship to travel the world doing photography. [fleft]

Whitney started noticing some health problems during his travels, though, when he was twenty-one. Like so many others he kept pushing himself. Ultimately his declining health forced him to stop travelling. He started a more sedentary occupation as a wedding photographer but that soon proved to be too much. Four years later, like so many others, he bemoaned his mistake in not pulling back more quickly - and acknowledged how very difficult that is to do, particularly for a young person.

"I spent the first years of this illness pushing myself. I thought it would eventual go away, and I tried to just keep going and do as much as I could. I didn't want to surrender to it, or let it shape my life. If I had known more about CFS and the consequences of over exertion, I may not be nearly as sick as I am today. Though who knows, I probably would have been optimistic and tired to do everything I did anyways."

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[/fleft] He described a kind of "fatigue" that few people could envision.

"The most fundamental symptom is debilitating fatigue. But fatigue is much too mild a word. I like to compare the state I'm in now to staying up for two nights in a row while fasting, then getting drunk. The state you would be in on the third day- hung over, not having slept or eaten in 3 days- is close, but still better than many CFS patients feel every day. "Total body shut down" would be a better phrase because you are at a point where your body physically does not have the energy to keep going."

Whitney was in pretty bad shape when he wrote that. Unfortunately it was nothing compared to what was to come. Here's how he was at the time: "I am currently fighting a serious neuro immune illness called Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. It has taken a slow and steady toll on my life for the past 4 years and I am now unable to leave the house much, forced to spend most of my time in bed. I struggle to continue my creative endeavors, and remain hopeful and inspired despite the fairly desolate physical circumstances."

In a chilling paragraph on his website he inadvertently spoke of what the future would hold - for himself: "But some people are much worse than I am. Many people wind up hospitalized unable to move or even speak, sometimes with constant and excruciating pain."

Completely debilitated Whitney now requires full-time care. The Palo Alto article reports that Whitney's "disease has progressed to the point that he cannot talk, read or use the Internet. His joint pain became so severe some time ago that he could no longer walk and needed to use a wheel chair. Now he rarely gets out of bed. On a good day, he’ll show his gratitude by pointing to his heart". An intravenous line is supplying him with food, supplements and medications.

People who don't know about ME/CFS should take note. If it can happen to this young man with the opportunities he had it can happen to anyone. It can defeat your passion and every aspect of your life. Resources can mean nothing. It cannot be overcome by good thoughts. When he still had some health Whitney noted that

"No amount of willpower, happiness or excitement changes this. I can be out of my mind with bliss and still run out of energy to work on something."

Whitney's Prize-Winning Photo



In the Palo Alto piece Kogelnik said Whitney's story from healthy, active individual to disabled ME/CFS patient was not uncommon.

"He had in some ways a very typical story. He was a young guy, successful, in-the-prime-ofhis-life kind of person, and very positive but had all of a sudden been hit after a brief acute illness, and he hadn’t really recovered from it. And he continued to kind of not recover from it for months and months; and months became years..”

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[/fleft]Whitney described the effects of a crash. Here is one of them:

“My whole train of thought and emotional state got wiped ‘clean,’ no matter what I was thinking and feeling before the crash. Afterwards I couldn’t feel anything or think at all. It left me (in) this ‘empty’ haze that was awful — unable to think or feel anything. Totally numb mentally. Lasted hours sometimes, slowly faded as thought and feeling slowly return. Really awful"

The costs - financial, time, emotional - costs of caring for someone who is so severely ill are also vividly portrayed in the article. Among other things because Whitney's sleep pattern is reversed both parents are often up most of the night. Janet Dafoe, his mother said

"“It’s hard to explain. Most people have experienced loss in the sense of a death and grieving, and you are able to grieve and move on, even if you still feel loss. (But with chronic fatigue) it’s not a normal grief. It just continues, and it’s been going on for years....I go in there day after day and watch my son waste away,” she said. “It’s the worst kind of suffering for a mother to watch her kid suffering and being so miserable".

Invisible Illness - Stories of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome From Palo Alto Online


The article also covers another persons story, the state of ME/CFS research, some encouraging findings and Ron Davis's creation of the End ME/CFS project. It's one of the more complete articles I've ever seen on ME/CFS.

The End ME/CFS Project

The End ME/CFS project aims to gather more data and dig more deeply into the severely ill than in any population that has been seen in ME/CFS. In fact, it's not even close: this would be a full-scale sweep of these patients biology. This comprehensive project is just the kind of ambitious undertaking ME/CFS needs.

They'll search the full genome with special attention given to mitochondrial genes and immune genes. They'll look at proteins found in immune cells, blood and spinal fluid and they'll search for infectious agents in blood, bone marrow, spinal fluid and saliva and changes to gastrointestinal tract flora. They'll also evidence of autoimmune responses. The goal is a biomarker or set of biomarkers they can use to unravel what's going on in this complex illness.

Ron Davis will be holding a fundraiser for the End ME/CFS projects first study on the severely ill at their house in Palo Alto on July 16th. Find out more about and support the Severely Ill Big Data Study here.

The Severely Ill Big Data Study

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Issie

Well-Known Member
Just heart breaking. Just reading your review has me in tears.

I hope there can be relief for him and others who have this so severely. What can one say ......... I hope he can find peace and comfort!!!!

Issie
 

Carole

Active Member
Just heart breaking. Just reading your review has me in tears.

I hope there can be relief for him and others who have this so severely. What can one say ......... I hope he can find peace and comfort!!!!

Issie
I like Issie- wish him some freedom from pain. Much comfort and peace . Such a wonderful future interrupted.

I too am in tears for this BRAVE SOUL.

Carole
 

Issie

Well-Known Member
Cort, is there a way to get a message to this family? So many people I've been in contact with POTS deteriorate to this level. When I was so bad, I was in a wheelchair, so weak I couldn't get myself up out of a chair. And if I tried to talk - would give out of breath. It taxed not just my body but made me mentally exhausted. Have they had him tested for POTS or OI? There have been some that have progressed into MSF. (Multiple System Failure). That was my wrong DX along with Parkinson's (also wrong - POTS makes some have tremors). I just think they are missing something with him.

Issie
 

CWS

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Living on Empty

The recent stunning newspaper article "Living on Empty: Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Saps its Victims But New Research But New Research May Find the Cause" covers patient stories, ME/CFS's history, funding, research, Ron's Davis's work and more. (You can access it via an online PDF here. It takes a bit of work to get to - you have to scroll down to page 20 - but it's well worth it.)

[fright]View attachment 496 [/fright]It comes from a neighborhood newspaper whose neighborhood just happens to be Palo Alto with its rich, highly educated and powerful audience. It focuses on Whitney Dafoe - Janet Dafoe's and Ron Davis's son and his severe, severe case of ME/CFS. The opening visual of family and friends helping to move Whitney is startling, and the before and after pictures of Whitney are just heartbreaking. (This blog takes from that piece and from Whitney's evocative writings on his website.)

Prior to his illness Whitney, a photojournalist, lived an extremely active life. He was curious and creative and committed to making a difference. He'd been to every state in the Union. He'd done volunteer work in Jamaica and India and in President Obama's campaign. He'd lived with a shaman in the Ecuador rain forest. He had won several awards and exhibited his work in numerous exhibitions. He had won a scholarship to travel the world doing photography. [fleft]

Whitney started noticing some health problems during his travels, though, when he was twenty-one. Like so many others he kept pushing himself. Ultimately his declining health forced him to stop travelling. He started a more sedentary occupation as a wedding photographer but that soon proved to be too much. Four years later, like so many others, he bemoaned his mistake in not pulling back more quickly - and acknowledged how very difficult that is to do, particularly for a young person.

"I spent the first years of this illness pushing myself. I thought it would eventual go away, and I tried to just keep going and do as much as I could. I didn't want to surrender to it, or let it shape my life. If I had known more about CFS and the consequences of over exertion, I may not be nearly as sick as I am today. Though who knows, I probably would have been optimistic and tired to do everything I did anyways."

[fleft]View attachment 498 [/fleft] He described a kind of "fatigue" that few people could envision.

"The most fundamental symptom is debilitating fatigue. But fatigue is much too mild a word. I like to compare the state I'm in now to staying up for two nights in a row while fasting, then getting drunk. The state you would be in on the third day- hung over, not having slept or eaten in 3 days- is close, but still better than many CFS patients feel every day. "Total body shut down" would be a better phrase because you are at a point where your body physically does not have the energy to keep going."

Whitney was in pretty bad shape when he wrote that. Unfortunately it was nothing compared to what was to come. Here's how he was at the time: "I am currently fighting a serious neuro immune illness called Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. It has taken a slow and steady toll on my life for the past 4 years and I am now unable to leave the house much, forced to spend most of my time in bed. I struggle to continue my creative endeavors, and remain hopeful and inspired despite the fairly desolate physical circumstances."

In a chilling paragraph on his website he inadvertently spoke of what the future would hold - for himself: "But some people are much worse than I am. Many people wind up hospitalized unable to move or even speak, sometimes with constant and excruciating pain."

Completely debilitated Whitney now requires full-time care. The Palo Alto article reports that Whitney's "disease has progressed to the point that he cannot talk, read or use the Internet. His joint pain became so severe some time ago that he could no longer walk and needed to use a wheel chair. Now he rarely gets out of bed. On a good day, he’ll show his gratitude by pointing to his heart". An intravenous line is supplying him with food, supplements and medications.

People who don't know about ME/CFS should take note. If it can happen to this young man with the opportunities he had it can happen to anyone. It can defeat your passion and every aspect of your life. Resources can mean nothing. It cannot be overcome by good thoughts. When he still had some health Whitney noted that

"No amount of willpower, happiness or excitement changes this. I can be out of my mind with bliss and still run out of energy to work on something."

Whitney's Prize-Winning Photo



In the Palo Alto piece Kogelnik said Whitney's story from healthy, active individual to disabled ME/CFS patient was not uncommon.

"He had in some ways a very typical story. He was a young guy, successful, in-the-prime-ofhis-life kind of person, and very positive but had all of a sudden been hit after a brief acute illness, and he hadn’t really recovered from it. And he continued to kind of not recover from it for months and months; and months became years..”

[fleft]View attachment 497[/fleft]Whitney described the effects of a crash. Here is one of them:

“My whole train of thought and emotional state got wiped ‘clean,’ no matter what I was thinking and feeling before the crash. Afterwards I couldn’t feel anything or think at all. It left me (in) this ‘empty’ haze that was awful — unable to think or feel anything. Totally numb mentally. Lasted hours sometimes, slowly faded as thought and feeling slowly return. Really awful"

The costs - financial, time, emotional - costs of caring for someone who is so severely ill are also vividly portrayed in the article. Among other things because Whitney's sleep pattern is reversed both parents are often up most of the night. Janet Dafoe, his mother said

"“It’s hard to explain. Most people have experienced loss in the sense of a death and grieving, and you are able to grieve and move on, even if you still feel loss. (But with chronic fatigue) it’s not a normal grief. It just continues, and it’s been going on for years....I go in there day after day and watch my son waste away,” she said. “It’s the worst kind of suffering for a mother to watch her kid suffering and being so miserable".

The article also covers another persons story, the state of ME/CFS research, some encouraging findings and Ron Davis's creation of the End ME/CFS project. It's one of the more complete articles I've ever seen on ME/CFS.

The End ME/CFS Project

The End ME/CFS project aims to gather more data and dig more deeply into the severely ill than in any population that has been seen in ME/CFS. In fact, it's not even close: this would be a full-scale sweep of these patients biology. This comprehensive project is just the kind of ambitious undertaking ME/CFS needs.

They'll search the full genome with special attention given to mitochondrial genes and immune genes. They'll look at proteins found in immune cells, blood and spinal fluid and they'll search for infectious agents in blood, bone marrow, spinal fluid and saliva and changes to gastrointestinal tract flora. They'll also evidence of autoimmune responses. The goal is a biomarker or set of biomarkers they can use to unravel what's going on in this complex illness.

Ron Davis will be holding a fundraiser for the End ME/CFS projects first study on the severely ill at their house in Palo Alto on July 16th. Find out more about and support the Severely Ill Big Data Study here.

The Severely Ill Big Data Study

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I wish heart peace for all who suffer from this disease. It is heartbreaking but i am hopeful that one day some beautiful compassionate individual will find us all a cure so that we can live our lives to the fullest. XO
 

Carole

Active Member
Issie- I agree with you-but have to think this family has thought of this or at least the Doctors.
Very good point to make. I am also thinking since he did traveled to other countries-that it may be something they have not tested for as it is an unknown?

I have found lately the Infectious Disease Doctors test for many more things than the CFIDS do.
Interesting. Don't know who has tested him.

Carole
 

sharonklb

Active Member
My heart goes out out to him...such a waste of talent and young energy!
I had a few weeks recently when I thought I may be on an upward point and then had a cognitive episode in the middle of the early hours this morning, got in the shower and before I has even turned it on,I don't know what happened but I fell, heard a crack and went to accident and emergency and have broken my shoulder. Its a horrible condition, which needs addressing.
 

Issie

Well-Known Member
My heart goes out out to him...such a waste of talent and young energy!
I had a few weeks recently when I thought I may be on an upward point and then had a cognitive episode in the middle of the early hours this morning, got in the shower and before I has even turned it on,I don't know what happened but I fell, heard a crack and went to accident and emergency and have broken my shoulder. Its a horrible condition, which needs addressing.
Oh NOooo! This happens with POTS and OI a lot. May be something to look into. There are those who faint regularly with upright posture. So sorry you broke your shoulder.

Issie
 

Issie

Well-Known Member
Issie- I agree with you-but have to think this family has thought of this or at least the Doctors.
Very good point to make. I am also thinking since he did traveled to other countries-that it may be something they have not tested for as it is an unknown?

I have found lately the Infectious Disease Doctors test for many more things than the CFIDS do.
Interesting. Don't know who has tested him.

Carole
There are not that many doctors who even know about POTS. Some that do, don't do the testing long enough to pickup delayed response. My cardio tilt was 45 minutes. My neuro tilt about 15. The 45 min was much more telling. But the 15 min showed it very clearly for me too.

Issie
 

Merry

Well-Known Member
This video which is about Whitney and his family and, to a lesser extent, two other ME/CFS patients, may have been made to accompany the news story, although I didn't find it at the Palo Alto Weekly website but on Facebook:

 

Carole

Active Member
Just a thought- Why are they continuing with the same Physician -if he is not getting better? Even is he is weak
seeing someone else and getting another opinion would be worth it.

Carole
 

Cort

Founder of Health Rising and Phoenix Rising
Staff member
Cort, is there a way to get a message to this family? So many people I've been in contact with POTS deteriorate to this level. When I was so bad, I was in a wheelchair, so weak I couldn't get myself up out of a chair. And if I tried to talk - would give out of breath. It taxed not just my body but made me mentally exhausted. Have they had him tested for POTS or OI? There have been some that have progressed into MSF. (Multiple System Failure). That was my wrong DX along with Parkinson's (also wrong - POTS makes some have tremors). I just think they are missing something with him.

Issie
They are aware of this blog. Janet emailed me the story today. I imagine that he has been tested for OI but somebody is obviously missing something. Whether that something can be found at this point is, of course, another question. Hopefully there is something technology can find but it may be that Whitney's best hope is Ron Davis's Severely Ill study - which he is in. I hope people will be generous with their support.
 

Cort

Founder of Health Rising and Phoenix Rising
Staff member
I think Whitney has actually seen quite a few doctors - I just don't think they got in the story.
Just a thought- Why are they continuing with the same Physician -if he is not getting better? Even is he is weak
seeing someone else and getting another opinion would be worth it.

Carole
 

Martinigal

Active Member
My heart just broke when I read this story. I've suffered terribly, but nothing like this poor young man. I must say that his little square he wrote to
his mom saying "please don't stop taking care of me", really make me anxious. I feel that way a lot. I only receive help from my Mom and I often
wonder what I'd do without her.
I'm not sure how this could happen, especially in Palo Alto, about 20 miles down the road from me. With all the great docs at PAMF and Stanford, not a single
one could find some relief for him. Some relief for one part of his suffering??
I don't know what else to say. His suffering and the inability for any single specialist to alieve any portion of his suffering leaves me feeling so, so sorry for him
and a bit frightened for myself too.
 

Cort

Founder of Health Rising and Phoenix Rising
Staff member
My heart just broke when I read this story. I've suffered terribly, but nothing like this poor young man. I must say that his little square he wrote to
his mom saying "please don't stop taking care of me", really make me anxious. I feel that way a lot. I only receive help from my Mom and I often
wonder what I'd do without her.
I'm not sure how this could happen, especially in Palo Alto, about 20 miles down the road from me. With all the great docs at PAMF and Stanford, not a single
one could find some relief for him. Some relief for one part of his suffering??
I don't know what else to say. His suffering and the inability for any single specialist to alieve any portion of his suffering leaves me feeling so, so sorry for him
and a bit frightened for myself too.
Janet's having trouble getting on the Forums but she emailed to say
"that the Stanford and PMF docs refuse to make home visits, and won't help him unless he comes in to fill out paperwork to establish an official medical record. He can't do that. It would harm him. It's outrageous and really really upsetting. I wonder what happened to "first,do no harm"?"
 

Cort

Founder of Health Rising and Phoenix Rising
Staff member
Nancy is also having trouble getting on the Forums. She wanted to add this comment:

I agree with everyone that his story is heartbreaking. For a long-time ME/CFS sufferer whose 30 year old daughter is showing symptoms, it is horrifying. And one line in particular caught my eye: he'd been in Ecuador. My daughter has been sick since living in Ecuador for 15 months. Like Whitney, she keeps pushing herself, but has horrendous gut symptoms and is experiencing more and more fatigue. In a weird coincidence, I talked to another woman (my dermatologist) last week and found out that she was sick for 17 years (down to 89 pounds) after a study-abroad experience in Ecuador. She doesn't identify herself as ME/CFS, but as post-infectious SIBO. (She finally has some relief after a year of Xifaxan and the book, The Inside Tract, by Gerald Mullin). These may be random coincidences. But I'd sure like for someone like Ian Lipkin to try to connect these dots.
I wouldn't be surprised at all if she's right...
 

Merry

Well-Known Member
Janet's having trouble getting on the Forums but she emailed to say
"that the Stanford and PMF docs refuse to make home visits, and won't help him unless he comes in to fill out paperwork to establish an official medical record. He can't do that. It would harm him. It's outrageous and really really upsetting. I wonder what happened to "first,do no harm"?"
Unless he comes in to fill out paperwork? This is so sad and infuriating.
 

Carole

Active Member
Nancy is also having trouble getting on the Forums. She wanted to add this comment:



I wouldn't be surprised at all if she's right...
I think I mentioned this in one of my earlier replies my on this. Many viruses we do not even know about exist in other countries.
Ebola.

Cort-
What I do not understand is the parents not taking him to Stanford regardless of the procedural issues.
They have to make the decision. Not going could be critical-which it looks like he is. You do everything, even if he is uncomfortable doing it. He sure isn't getting better at home.

Also if he is living in a Mold environment-this could be critical for him.

How Sad for anyone to stay with the Status-QUO if there is an answer.

Carole

Take him to Stanford!!!!!
 

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